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EPISODE OVERVIEW
Section 1
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Story 1. Felony Charges dismissed against 2 former Louisville officers charged in the Breonna Taylor Raid.
Story 2: Anarchy Update. 62-year-old Staten Island man assaulted by a group of teens in a random attack during his evening walk. From X @ColinRugg
- https://x.com/CollinRugg/status/1826973920018514103
Story 3: ‘Crisis Levels’: How Dem-Backed Law Turned Deep Blue City Into Haven For Young Criminals.
- https://dailycaller.com/2024/08/22/dem-backed-law-turned-aurora-young-criminals/
Arrest of Minor aged offenders by Aurora PD. @AuroraPD
- https://x.com/AuroraPD/status/1824574214147543135
Section 2
What is a victim mentality and how do we avoid it.
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00:00:02:00 - 00:00:19:13
Wayne Mulder
All right. Welcome, my friend, to the On the Blue Line podcast. I know something different if you are watching this live, but more on that in a moment. I am your host, Wayne Mulder, and this is the podcast that's all about helping you live an amazing life. So much of what we discuss on here is specific to law enforcement, or at least from a law enforcement perspective.
00:00:19:13 - 00:00:43:15
Wayne Mulder
And the reason for that is, well, that's what I do. So on today's episode, an update on one of the court cases from the Breonna Taylor Officer-Involved shooting. Two examples on why soft on crime policies do not work. And I go over the victim mentality. But more importantly, I go over what we can do about it and how we you I can begin to take personal accountability.
00:00:43:17 - 00:00:45:07
Wayne Mulder
The show starts now.
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Unknown
Cause you know it's only gonna get better. Yeah, the.
00:00:50:29 - 00:01:15:13
Speaker 2
Seasons know when you break the law. If you decide to do this, we're gonna hold you responsible. You are the only good thing in someone's worst day. That is a privilege for a police officer. At the very least, you could honor the sacrifices of police officers and their families. We have the ability to save the Republic.
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Unknown
Gonna
00:01:16:00 - 00:01:31:11
Wayne Mulder
That's right. We do. And thank you so much for joining week after week. A little more on what this is here in a second. However, be sure to follow us on Twitter. I'm most active on Twitter and Instagram right now. Twitter. Where at on the blue line in the number one and Instagram it on the Blue Line podcast.
00:01:31:18 - 00:01:50:01
Wayne Mulder
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00:01:50:02 - 00:02:11:07
Wayne Mulder
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00:02:11:09 - 00:02:31:20
Wayne Mulder
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00:02:31:23 - 00:02:49:26
Wayne Mulder
This one is only streaming on YouTube. The future ones are going to stream on our Facebook pages. Let me rephrase that. Social media pages to include Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.. However, I just wanted to try it on here. This is going to be kind of in the same format, just a solo episode this week of my morning roll calls.
00:02:49:26 - 00:03:10:16
Wayne Mulder
So this is just going to be a breakdown of three stories and then something that will help you for the week ahead. However, the reason I'm doing this, the reason I'm testing out these platforms, the reason we're headed down this road, is because it's going to give us a chance to bring you content in a different way that I, hope is going to be very beneficial to you.
00:03:10:16 - 00:03:28:19
Wayne Mulder
And something that you're going to really enjoy as we go forward. So let's get to it. So the first thing I want to do is, as usual, if you've been a watcher of the show for any period of time, then you know that we usually do three stories that have some sort of take away. One of these is just a real quick update.
00:03:28:21 - 00:03:56:03
Wayne Mulder
There was an update, I believe it actually came out today. I caught it on X, but essentially there's been an update, in reference to the offer for two of the officers that were involved in the Breonna Taylor officer involved shooting. So a federal judge. This is coming from CNN. But a federal judge dismissed the felony charges Thursday against two former Louisville Metro Police Department detectives who worked on the search warrant in the deadly raid on Breonna Taylor's home.
00:03:56:05 - 00:04:14:12
Wayne Mulder
The article goes on to talk about what happened on the 13th and so forth. While the officers were charged. This is quoting here. While the officers were charged with using a dangerous weapon to deprive Taylor of her Fourth Amendment right to be free from unreasonable search. The order from the judge stated that it had not been proven.
00:04:14:12 - 00:04:46:09
Wayne Mulder
The execution team used their firearms for the purpose of subjecting her to the search. What's interesting, and probably the most important takeaway from this article, and the reason I wanted to bring it to you as, one of the first things to talk about is that the US District Court judge, Charles Sumption, ruled Thursday that the decision by Taylor's boyfriend, Kenneth Walker, to fire his gun when officers burst into the home that was, quote, and this is an important takeaway, the legal cause of Taylor's death, end quote, rather than warrantless entry, according to court documents.
00:04:46:11 - 00:05:10:21
Wayne Mulder
So very important distinction and an important distinction. The him shooting at them is, what actually led to them returning fire and then ultimately to Taylor's death. So that's a very important update in that case. Doesn't mean they're out of the woods. Doesn't mean this thing is over. Doesn't mean that the courts have decided, culpability and all that kind of thing.
00:05:10:28 - 00:05:38:25
Wayne Mulder
Really, what it is, is just specific to those felony charges. So it'll be a case that I'm sure will drag on for a while. And the, there's some federal charges they're looking at as well. So it's not over. But that's an important distinction that the judge makes. And so I wanted to pass that on to you. Another story this week is, in what I'm calling our anarchy, update, but this is coming to us from,
00:05:38:28 - 00:06:15:15
Wayne Mulder
This is coming to us from Colin rug Onex. And I just caught this story, but this occurred up in New York. I know, surprise. And, let's watch this video.
00:06:15:18 - 00:06:35:17
Wayne Mulder
So I apologize for those of you on the podcast. There is no sound on that. So I sorry for the 32nd pause there. However, essentially, the 62 year old Staten Island man was assaulted by a group of teens. So you see him walking down the sidewalk there, and the man said as he was walking, the group confronted him and asked him which fist he wanted to be punched with.
00:06:35:20 - 00:07:03:21
Wayne Mulder
Well, that seems completely reasonable, I guess. So he was then chased across the street, as you see, and then the herd continues to follow him there where he was assaulted. And, he states, I want to leave here. I no longer want to live here, which I completely understand. And the man went on whether he was sent to the hospital where he incurred $5,000 in medical bills, and the two teens, ages 13 and 14, were arrested, and they were charged in connection with the incident.
00:07:03:21 - 00:07:29:04
Wayne Mulder
So, just an important takeaway on this one. And it's going to feed right into the next story that I want to talk about. Because this this is an issue, right? This is something that we have going on here is people are, anarchy. People are just doing whatever people want to do. So another and my third story for you this week that's closely related is coming to us out of Aurora, Colorado.
00:07:29:04 - 00:07:54:18
Wayne Mulder
So there is an article here where it talks about, crisis levels, how them back law turned Deep Blue City into haven for young criminals. So coming from Aurora, Colorado, residents are suffering from skyrocketing juvenile violent crime. And that is a 2021 state law restricting juvenile detention allows violent teenagers to be released from jail. But I thought this was fascinating.
00:07:54:18 - 00:08:32:01
Wayne Mulder
So essentially, what Governor Jared Polis signed in 2021 was decreasing the cap on juvenile beds. So think about that. Rather than increasing it to the level of crime or to what is needed, he decreases it from 327 to 215, so roughly 100 beds. And in 2021, in 2023, there was an increase of 42% in detentions for violent crimes in Colorado, with approximately 50 juveniles, detained on an average day.
00:08:32:04 - 00:09:01:29
Wayne Mulder
For different charges. Here, they've seen an increase of 124% when it comes to juvenile homicide, violence. Crazy. Absolutely. Craziness. So, in Colorado, 47.2% of juveniles detained in 2023 were mandatory repeat violent or aggravated offenders. And there were, judges. So this is calendar told CBS Colorado. Judges have to make a decision of which violent juvenile to release to stay underneath the arbitrary bed cap.
00:09:02:02 - 00:09:25:16
Wayne Mulder
If you're releasing other violent juveniles back into the community, there's a sense that there isn't a consequence. Yeah. And obviously the numbers bear this out, right? They keep increasing. And the number of repeat juvenile offenders, the severity of the crimes just keep going on and on. In this article Aurora PD wanted to show this video. So I'm going to show this video for you here.
00:09:25:22 - 00:09:46:10
Wayne Mulder
But essentially it's the arrest of a minor minor injured offenders by Aurora PD. And they were tracking a stolen vehicle and were attacked by several minor criminal offenders with more than 20 rounds of gunfire fired at the officers, which of course led to a multi-jurisdictional pursuit. And they traveled through portions of Aurora and Denver. So, let's watch the video here.
00:09:46:10 - 00:11:14:03
Wayne Mulder
There is fortunately sound on this one. So for you podcast listeners, you won't be just listening to Dead Air for a moment here.
00:11:14:05 - 00:11:35:25
Wayne Mulder
Crazy. Absolutely crazy. And anyone who's worked in this career, obviously you've seen it, but just. Just in saying, the amount of juvenile. I can't believe the homicide rate like that was incredible to me. The increase among juvenile offenders in that area of Colorado. However, we all know that Colorado policies have gotten worse and worse, and they've been trying to become more like New York and California.
00:11:35:26 - 00:11:59:12
Wayne Mulder
And surprisingly, oh wait. Not surprisingly, that's exactly what happens with the numbers as they go up as well. So that's what I had for you on today's news stories. Real quick, just, telling you guys we have a new Patreon page set up. It's, patreon.com forward slash on the blue line. Patreon.com. The easy way is show notes below the very first one.
00:11:59:12 - 00:12:17:12
Wayne Mulder
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00:12:17:12 - 00:12:46:04
Wayne Mulder
There's about three different options. Everything from not having episodes that have any commercials in them and all the way up to having options, for some kind of cool things that you might really enjoy. So check that out. Patreon.com forward slash on the blue line, and you can just click the link below. All right. So for the one little takeaway, the anecdotal story or thought that I had for you this week, so in all honesty, I had a bad day.
00:12:46:07 - 00:13:06:05
Wayne Mulder
I know we all have bad days, we all have moments and so forth, but it was kind of a sucky day. Had some things happen day. Now I'm gonna go into specifics on any of that, but it kind of just led to this very depressed, very just, this this sucks, right? That kind of thing. And and it was, you know, some, relationship stuff.
00:13:06:05 - 00:13:29:05
Wayne Mulder
Not anyone particular, but just, somebody that I had known and anyway, just led to some issues, so had me thinking. Right. Because two things. One of the things that came out of that conversation is exactly what I want to talk about today, which is this idea of a victim mentality. Right? And I as I thought more about it as the day rolled on, I kind of got into this where I have one of two choices, right?
00:13:29:05 - 00:13:46:24
Wayne Mulder
I can either wallow in it and do what I want to do, which is check out, veg out, maybe go watch some baseball, maybe, go watch some Netflix. You know, I can I can take that approach or I can not let it bother me. Not let it, affect everything. And I can do what I need to do.
00:13:46:25 - 00:14:02:12
Wayne Mulder
I can come in here. I can do you know, this is what I say the mission is. This is what I'm trying to accomplish right now so I can push forward and not allow it to set me back. So I had me thinking about this idea of just like overcoming a victim mentality and what that looks like. Right?
00:14:02:14 - 00:14:24:18
Wayne Mulder
And I kind of chuckled a little bit. I thought it was I thought just a little bit ironic because, see, cops often see it in others, right? There's so much about our job, so much about when you're dealing with other people that you're like, yeah, well, if they if they didn't look at themselves as a victim, if they started to take personal responsibility, if they started to, you know, whatever X is, well, then they can get up and out of this and it kind of is a turn off for us.
00:14:24:18 - 00:14:39:07
Wayne Mulder
Right? It kind of is like, well, you know, I want to help you, but I can't help you if you want help yourself. That mentality or even what you hear sometimes, you know, God helps those who help themselves, which I'm pretty sure isn't in the Bible. But anyway, that's that's one of those things that people often repeat.
00:14:39:07 - 00:14:59:02
Wayne Mulder
It's a it's a mantra that and we see it when we see it in other people. But what today, when this incident happened, kind of made me realize is that I see it in other people. But I don't often see it in myself that sometimes I want to play the victim. Right. So what does that look like? What does it look like when we say that someone has a victim mentality?
00:14:59:02 - 00:15:17:14
Wayne Mulder
Well, a lot of times it's this idea of blaming others. And I tell you there was there was a convention this week, I'm not going to get into politics, but a convention this week of one side of the political spectrum that essentially their entire platform is blaming others, that that's exactly what it is. It's like, well, these people are held back because of this, and this is held back because of that.
00:15:17:14 - 00:15:39:00
Wayne Mulder
And we can't do this because it's this idea where you're frequently attributing your problems or failures, negative experiences to the actions or faults of other people. And when I looked inward, when I thought, well, okay, yeah, I guess I do that from time to time, right? And the honest truth is, is we all do it right. It's not to push blame.
00:15:39:00 - 00:15:57:17
Wayne Mulder
It's not to blame this person or that group. The fact is, is we all have the moment where we blame someone else. But then the interesting thing is, is it starts to wear on us. And so another way that it that we start to show this victim mentality is through feeling power, powerlessness. Right. It's believing that you've got little to no control over circumstances.
00:15:57:17 - 00:16:13:26
Wayne Mulder
I can't affect that. I can't do this. I can't engage with that person because I have no power. And that was kind of the tailspin that I found myself in today, because it started with blame. Well, it's not my fault. It's their fault. Well, it's not me. It's them. And you start there. But then immediately that becomes a spiral.
00:16:13:26 - 00:16:31:18
Wayne Mulder
And as you start spiraling and start losing control over these things that really matter, well, then you get this feeling of power, powerlessness. And what do cops typically do off duty when they kind of feel like they don't have control? See, everything about your job is control. Think about this for a minute. Right? I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
00:16:31:18 - 00:16:50:00
Wayne Mulder
See, in our world, I have a good friend who's a pilot, and I often talk with him about this. If if we have control of everything in our world every day while we're in this, and I know we don't have control of the calls, we don't have, but we have these policies, these procedures these way where you do the job, where you have this feeling of control.
00:16:50:00 - 00:17:08:26
Wayne Mulder
And the same way a pilot isn't necessarily in control of all the ancillary bad things that can happen that could make that plane crash. But they are well trained into processes that keeps that playing in the air. And I thought about how that so often is kind of like the opposite of what we think about and what we do.
00:17:08:26 - 00:17:26:28
Wayne Mulder
Right. So we have that control there. But then when we come home, all that goes out the window and all we really want to do is not think about it like it's Friday night. Right? So this was my short week, worked a few days. So you on Friday night you're like, man, the last thing I want to do right now is think about doing anything, taking control, moving forward or whatever.
00:17:26:28 - 00:17:42:21
Wayne Mulder
And so that leads to this constant negativity where we're focusing on the negative aspects of life. We're expecting bad things to happen, you know. Well, you know, that's just going to go bad. And I'll I'll be honest with you, I've been stuck in this loop myself for a while. That's when I come up with some of these topics.
00:17:42:21 - 00:18:01:06
Wayne Mulder
Just so you know. I'll let you in. I'll show you behind the curtain here for a minute. When I come up with some of these topics, it's often because I'm like, yeah, that that might be something I need to think about because I'm not exactly doing well. There. And so, so often we get to where we just start expecting bad things to happen.
00:18:01:06 - 00:18:17:04
Wayne Mulder
I'll be honest with you, this political season, I've been that way. I have absolutely been in a negative way, and I think some of it's justified. From early on, just some of the craziness that's happened in not on any one side, just on both sides, however, and I have a real concern for what the future may look like.
00:18:17:06 - 00:18:40:12
Wayne Mulder
And I think that's rational. However, when that moves over to where everything is negative, everything is bad. Things are going to happen. Everything is. I'm, downplaying the positive experiences, the positive outcomes, and rather I'm only looking at the potential negative outcome. What we start to do is we get stuck in that and that becomes our norm. That becomes what we, think about.
00:18:40:15 - 00:19:01:09
Wayne Mulder
And then a lot of times, depending on your beliefs, some people believe that, you know, a lot of this can actually then manifest and become what some of the exactly the things we're most afraid of become the thing that we're dealing with. And it's all because it's what we focused on. So the other thing is a lack of accountability and I see this so much.
00:19:01:09 - 00:19:25:05
Wayne Mulder
In fact, this was a direct part of the conversation. I was referring to it. It's this unwillingness to say, you know what? There are problems in the world. However, I have a responsibility to engage in this free society. I need to engage in those in my life. I need to engage in those in my relationships. I need to engage in those, whatever it may be, and to show that accountability.
00:19:25:05 - 00:19:49:04
Wayne Mulder
Right. The other thing is, seeking sympathy or validation, right? It's called a it's called a pity party for a reason. And that's because when one person wants to sit over here, what was the old adage, you know, sitting here in the garden eating worms all day or whatever, when one person decides they're going to sit over here and eat worms all day, well, then all of a sudden everybody decides they want to sit over here and eat worms all day because everybody is having a bad day.
00:19:49:04 - 00:20:13:29
Wayne Mulder
And it's all because we get stuck in this victim mentality in this loop. And it just drives and it just keeps manifesting itself and becoming more and more and more and more. And it becomes insurmountable in some ways. And then we end up where I started at the beginning of all this, where we have a choice, right? And it's that choice that, well, am I going to continue on this path or am I going and am I going to just go veg out, maybe go watch a little Netflix?
00:20:13:29 - 00:20:35:09
Wayne Mulder
Whatever it is, I'm not ragging on Netflix or sports. I do it all the time, but it's just those are in modern America, easy escapes that we all have. Instead of taking a moment to step back and take personal responsibility. So let me quickly just give you five ideas on ways that we can stop being a victim, become a conqueror, and we can start to take positive, steps forward.
00:20:35:09 - 00:21:00:09
Wayne Mulder
Right. And they are things that I just did. And so they'll help you as well. So first of all, we have to recognize it, right? I'm not saying you have to come on and do a live podcast about it. That's a little weird. I mean, just saying, but I am saying that you do have to recognize in yourself and then you've got to say, okay, I know that I've been dealing with the self-doubt, and I had this negative self-talk in this cycle where I keep affirming it and I'm going to step outside of that.
00:21:00:11 - 00:21:24:11
Wayne Mulder
And so then what that second step is to begin to take responsibility. And that's where we often go wrong. So a lot of times we get and some people will even term it as maybe a depression or whatever the situation may be. And they'll look at this and they'll say, hey, yeah, I'm, I recognize it. I see that I did this, however, they don't want to take response ability for it.
00:21:24:13 - 00:21:51:10
Wayne Mulder
And so taking action is actually where the rubber meets the road on this. Right. Again tonight, my options were real simple. I could have continued to wallow in my self-pity, wallow in my victim mentality, wallow in that and just go on with my night. And I would have been real easy to say I am not going to even deal with coming here and talking to this little camera, but I had to make a choice based on what I want the future to be.
00:21:51:10 - 00:22:10:18
Wayne Mulder
And that leads to the third thing, which is to be solution focused, right? This is sometimes something we all struggle with, right? We instead of dwelling on the problems and the alleged injustices or whatever it may be, we have to start looking for ways to solve it. So there. This is what they say when you start a business, right?
00:22:10:18 - 00:22:26:21
Wayne Mulder
Identify the problem and then come up with a solution. And that's how you develop a very successful business a lot of times. Well, the same is true in our lives if we identify a problem. So I have this victim mentality. Well I need to be accountable. Well what are some things I can do to get me out of that?
00:22:26:21 - 00:22:46:17
Wayne Mulder
So instead of the woe is me and the everything always goes against me, well, maybe what I need to do is go take some steps that help me to push back, that help to give me that feeling that, hey, when I'm making forward positive momentum, good things happen and good things will happen and starting to just look at it all differently.
00:22:46:19 - 00:23:05:02
Wayne Mulder
Well, that leads to the fourth idea I have for you, which is to reframe your negative thoughts. This is something that I'm trying to do better at because we all have these negative thoughts, these negative mantras we repeat to ourselves all the time. So it's this whole like so instead of saying, this always happens to me right? In a negative way.
00:23:05:02 - 00:23:25:10
Wayne Mulder
This, for instance, this evening, I was getting ready to prepare for this live this first time we've ever been live, which for those of you joining us on the live. Thank you. It's, great having you here. If you do have any comments, let me just quickly, jump over to that real quick. If you have any comments, be sure to mention them, because at the end of the episode here I am going to go over any comments that are in there.
00:23:25:10 - 00:23:53:08
Wayne Mulder
However, tonight sat down was getting ready to do this and it's Florida and Florida rains every afternoon in the summer. And of course storms come with those. And as my luck would have it, so does the power surge and everything. I was working at the videos that you saw earlier that I was cutting, everything that I needed to do to prep for this all went dark and had some boogie files, then had to restart everything.
00:23:53:11 - 00:24:12:20
Wayne Mulder
So in that moment I instantly went to why does this always happen to me? Every time I'm trying to do something good, this is what happens. This is just the way it's going to be. And on top of the rest of the day, I had, as I told you earlier, that's that's where I went very quickly. But the better way is to reframe it.
00:24:12:20 - 00:24:32:19
Wayne Mulder
What can I learn from this situation? What can I respond? How can I respond differently next time? What are the positives? Maybe, even in that situation, as frustrating as it is in the moment, when I come back to getting the material and stuff I need, maybe something positive is going to come out of that. So reframing it, you know, you hear it a lot in the financial space, right?
00:24:32:19 - 00:24:48:08
Wayne Mulder
Because we so often immediately go to, well, I can't afford it. Well, we really want to do this that well, I can't afford it. And I'm not suggesting you go into that and any of that, but what I am suggesting is flipping that on its head and always asking yourself, well, how can I afford it? What's the businesses I can do?
00:24:48:09 - 00:25:04:27
Wayne Mulder
What's the things I can do that will allow me to do this, that because this is a positive thing. It's great for my family, great for my wife, whatever it is or husband or whatever your situation is, and then allow that to be like, well, how can we do this? And that is taking it from a negative side to a positive side.
00:25:04:29 - 00:25:23:25
Wayne Mulder
That is the opposite of the victim mentality. So instead of, all these negative things always happened to me. Nothing ever works out. The whole world hates me. They hate me because, you know, whatever the situation is. And instead I flip it and say, how can things work out? What can I do? Maybe it's even a self-improvement thing.
00:25:23:25 - 00:25:49:07
Wayne Mulder
What can I do to improve so that these things don't happen, whatever it may be? And then the last thing, and probably the hardest when it comes to this is it is so hard. To practice gratitude. But practicing gratitude you do not feel you cannot feel like a victim when you are practicing gratitude. It just can't happen.
00:25:49:09 - 00:26:16:29
Wayne Mulder
If you are thankful for things, truly thankful for things, it is so hard to go out and then also be like, well, woe is me. Nothing ever works out because you start to see those blessings. You start to see those things that it's like, you know, I yes, my car broke down and yes, money strapped in. Yes. But today in my gratitude journal, I talked about, well, my family and my son and my wife and my, you know, whatever it is and these good things in our life, I do have a job.
00:26:16:29 - 00:26:34:00
Wayne Mulder
Yes, it may be a complete crap show some nights, but I have a job and there was a time I didn't have a job. So thank God I have a job. And that gratitude begins to build and it becomes it becomes a whole new mindset for us. And we start to move further and further from that victim mentality.
00:26:34:00 - 00:26:35:08
Wayne Mulder
So I hope
00:26:35:08 - 00:26:47:22
Wayne Mulder
They are things that you will think about in the week ahead. And I really appreciate everybody coming in here. And those of you who did end up watching this live, I just want to tell you, that this is something that we're going to be doing.
00:26:47:22 - 00:27:06:07
Wayne Mulder
I want to repeat what I said at the beginning. This is something we're going to be doing going forward. I'm going to be picking a night as any of you who work in law enforcement know, you work a rotating schedule when you're on patrol. And so unfortunately for me, that means that one, I never have the same day off two weeks in a row is essentially the short version of saying that.
00:27:06:07 - 00:27:25:00
Wayne Mulder
So, tonight we did Friday night. This is going to change one more time because I'm going to try to figure out a consistent way to do it. And then, we'll start looking at bringing on some guest and so forth for these in the future. So I just want to say thank you to each and every one of you, no matter how you got this content, thank you very much.
00:27:25:00 - 00:27:36:08
Wayne Mulder
Remember, there's always more on the blue line.com that does it for this week's episode. I will see all of you in the podcast, but I will see you out there on the blue line. Have a great evening.