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NEWS THAT MATTERS TO YOU:
- STORY ONE: Fearless with Jason Whitlock. Tyree Nichols & ‘Dear Mama’ Culture | Whitlock Responds to Ciara, Critics, & Chaos | EP 368. BlazeTV.com. January 31, 2023. https://www.blazetv.com/watch/recent/series/ON9Wcph2dIkC-fearless-with-jason-whitlock/episode/caZoXIxWJ1Q3-wtlk-01302023
- STORY TWO: America First Policy Institute. Fatherlessness and Crime. August 25, 2022. By Jack Brewer. https://americafirstpolicy.com/latest/20220825-fatherlessness-and-crime
ONE IMPORTANT TAKE-AWAY:
· This week, I discuss the real issue plaguing America and creating a challenge for law enforcement- Fatherlessness. I provide commentary from Jason Whitlock from his show Fearless and provide numerous statistics that confirm these statements.
· Lastly, I plea for men to start to stand up in their families, churches, and communities for the right things. Along with the Fatherlessness crisis is the closely tied Leadership crisis, it’s time that we start to try and make a difference in this area.
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00:00:10:23 - 00:00:33:12
Wayne Mulder
Welcome, my friend, to the On the Blue Line podcast for law enforcement with Wayne Mulder, and I'm your host. You guessed it. Wayne Mulder. This is the podcast where we help law enforcement overcome the mental health toll of the profession to become better leaders and protectors on and off the job. And today's 157th. Yes, I know. I just said 157th episode of the podcast.
00:00:33:18 - 00:00:53:14
Wayne Mulder
The only thing that can save American society and make a positive difference for law enforcement and it's under attack. But first, this is our weekly monologue show. It's called Morning Roll Call. If I hope you're enjoying this format, but be sure to check out our other show, which is the interview room comes out on Thursdays. Completely different format.
00:00:53:21 - 00:01:14:18
Wayne Mulder
Sit down with somebody usually from the law enforcement profession or at least some ties to it. And we discuss all sorts of things that matter to you. So be sure to check that out. All episodes are on YouTube. They're on Rumble, and we really do try to focus on video. In fact, you should see and we'll see I'll throw up some images here on the screen of some changes to the studio.
00:01:14:18 - 00:01:37:29
Wayne Mulder
So great things are coming. And as many of you know, we put out a new logo and so forth as well. So you're going to see those changes in the coming weeks. Be sure on the blue line, dot com on the blue line dot com for more on everything that we are doing. All right few things I want to go over this week in today's episode but let me start with referring to last week's episode.
00:01:37:29 - 00:02:05:07
Wayne Mulder
So if you haven't listened to last week's Morning Roll Call, I encourage you to go back and listen to it. It was episode 98. I spent a fair amount of time talking about the tragedy out of Memphis with Tyree Nichols, and I really wanted to talk about what were the takeaways, what were some of the common sentiments out there and what was true and what was not true, at least in my opinion, which when you run a podcast, you get to give your opinion.
00:02:05:07 - 00:02:29:23
Wayne Mulder
So that's what it is. As with any situation, when you give your opinion, you get dissenting opinions or dissenting views. 90% of the time when I see him on the social media and especially like Tik Tok, I ignore it 100%. However, every once in a while it feels like it may be legit. So I, you know, at least give them a little benefit and I respond.
00:02:30:11 - 00:02:56:05
Wayne Mulder
And so somebody kicked back and felt that my interpretation, my opinion of the federal government's role was weird is the term they used, but incorrect as well. So I want to be clear about something, though, and I thought I made it pretty clear, but just in case there were any misunderstandings, I want to make it extremely clear that I 100% believe in law enforcement oversight, accreditation and so forth.
00:02:56:18 - 00:03:19:06
Wayne Mulder
We must self-police. We must hold ourselves to a high standard and to that end, I believe that most agencies do in this day and age and at this current time. However, what I was saying and what I also believe to be true is that it is not necessarily again, there's always room for discourse, necessarily the role of the federal government.
00:03:19:06 - 00:03:42:20
Wayne Mulder
In fact, I believe that most of that should belong 100% at the state level in really the conversation. And what I was trying to say to this individual is that the question really comes down to a federal role where you feel the role of the federal government is in your personal life, whether you believe it should be a stronger centralized federal government or a stronger state government.
00:03:42:20 - 00:04:05:09
Wayne Mulder
And ironically, this argument, this conversation has been going on since the 1700s. So the chances of us fully solving it today on this podcast, not great, but we'll give it a try. That's all I can say. The other thing I want to do is just let you know I've received some really good news in my real job, though I am hoping this becomes my real job, and that's only possible with you listening.
00:04:05:09 - 00:04:30:16
Wayne Mulder
So thank you for listening. But really good news. As you all know, I can't talk specifics. It's funny, just this week I was having a conversation with somebody and we were like, Hey, you know, the podcast the day after I retire, it's going to be like a Dr. Phil episode or something like, I'm just going to be breaking down, just pouring out all sorts of information because there's so many things I can't talk about and won't talk about until that day comes.
00:04:30:25 - 00:04:49:26
Wayne Mulder
But it is suffice to say, I got some really good news and I really look forward to it, involve serving in a different capacity and it involves being able to make a difference, continue hopefully to make a positive difference in the lives of others. And that is the goal, whether it's in this podcast, it's in my profession or it's in my family.
00:04:50:08 - 00:05:12:21
Wayne Mulder
And is also the point of today's episode. So let's get to it. Last week, as I referenced, I spoke about the Tyree Nichols tragedy. I gave a law enforcement viewpoint on what I believed it was and what I believed it was not. So there is a guest or a host. He's not a guest. There is a host, though I do hope if he's listening, which I'm sure he is not.
00:05:12:21 - 00:05:37:18
Wayne Mulder
But Jason Whitlock, if you are listening, someday, I would love to have you on the on the Blue Lung podcast. So any of you out there who know Jason Whitlock, if you give him a shout out, if you could be like crying, Hey, Jason, there's this weird guy. He, you know, talks about law enforcement and here's why. So Jason Whitlock, he's a Blaze personality on Blaze TV and he is the host of Fearless with Jason Whitlock.
00:05:38:03 - 00:06:00:15
Wayne Mulder
What I love about his show, what I love about things he says, is he really does a great job of digging into cultural issues. He talked about this Tyree Nichols situation in breaking down law enforcement's role and in society's role. He he actually talks a lot about law enforcement, which, you know, he also talks a lot about sports, which is his bread and butter.
00:06:00:15 - 00:06:22:25
Wayne Mulder
But he talks a lot about law enforcement related issues, but he talks about it from the other side of the equation, which is what I just find it so engaging and so important, especially this time that we're in, because it really gives a different perspective that there are core issues in society that are creating some of these flash points that we're seeing in law enforcement and so forth.
00:06:23:11 - 00:06:46:16
Wayne Mulder
So I want to watch this video here. This is he got a lot of kickback, a lot of negative pushback from people. Your typical who you would expect on Twitter and on other occasions. But he had been on Tucker Carlson, had a couple of minutes spot where he talked about what he was seeing with the Tyree Nichols situation that led to all hell breaking loose.
00:06:47:00 - 00:07:08:21
Wayne Mulder
So then he felt, and rightfully so, that, hey, in a longer format, which is a podcast type situation or his show, he was able to then dig deeper into it and give more context. And really, I thought he did a great job of describing how the breakdown of the family unit, the breakdown of the leadership, the breakdown as he put male leadership, which I know was not a popular topic.
00:07:08:21 - 00:07:25:08
Wayne Mulder
But again, being a guy, I can only speak to guys, so we'll just leave it at that for now. But the breakdown of male leadership in our communities and our churches and in our families and so forth are really what's feeding a lot of this. And he talks about how he is who he is because of his father.
00:07:25:08 - 00:07:43:09
Wayne Mulder
So these clips are edited because, first of all, I had edited them for time. I highly, highly recommend if you enjoy his content or if you haven't checked out his content. There are links in the show notes. Go there and watch the full episode. The full episodes like an hour plus or minus. He has some guest on there and you'll get a full context of what Jason is saying.
00:07:43:09 - 00:07:46:19
Wayne Mulder
But let's listen to what he has to say on this topic.
00:07:46:19 - 00:08:16:02
Jason Whitlock, Host of Fearless
But the truth is, I am who I am, good and bad. Because of my father. I feared and revered him. He taught me the importance of self-sufficiency, self-reliance and never accepting a handout. He had no tolerance for excuses. Luckily, I grew up in an era when there was far less pressure to conform to a criminal black stereotype. Rappers weren't portrayed as heroes and role models.
00:08:16:02 - 00:08:47:07
Jason Whitlock, Host of Fearless
It wasn't cool to have a baby mama. I was raised to see myself as a leader, a protector and a provider. The left frames men like me, regardless of color, is a misogynist, oppressor. Popular culture promotes the woman queen, especially the black people. They ignore the failing results of matriarchal rulership and sin women like Cyril and Davis to fix problems only strong, bold male leadership can solve.
00:08:48:23 - 00:08:56:18
Jason Whitlock, Host of Fearless
Going to take male leadership in the home, in the church, and in law enforcement to fix the rotting culture that took Tyree Nichols's life.
00:08:57:14 - 00:09:27:27
Wayne Mulder
So really what what he says here is so powerful, right? He he is who he is, good and bad because of his father and how this breakdown, this push away from leadership in our families is also what is leading to some of these societal issues in later on in the video, he goes into this in a little bit more depth where he actually compares it on both sides of the equation to both what we saw from the law enforcement response, what we're seeing in police agencies, and then also what we're seeing with the community at the same time.
00:09:27:27 - 00:09:29:13
Wayne Mulder
So let's watch this clip real quick.
00:09:30:05 - 00:09:57:15
Jason Whitlock, Host of Fearless
And I'm not even blaming her for that because policing on parenting children in mass in these major cities has to be one of the most difficult jobs in all of the world. And to do that in this environment where policing has been denigrated, where police, where police, if they make any mistake, it can cost them their freedom and potentially their lives.
00:09:58:08 - 00:10:20:16
Wayne Mulder
See, the first thing I want to point out, and he does a great job of describing this, this isn't a race issue. This isn't a black, white, Asian, etc.. This is not a race issue. It's a human heart issue. It's a culture issue. It's an acceptance issue of an acceptance of a culture that is antithetical to a strong family unit.
00:10:21:12 - 00:10:39:19
Wayne Mulder
I remember when I grew up, it was always there was a like a prioritization teaching that you got. And I was getting this in school, which that's a whole nother conversation we'll get to in a minute. But you would get this, you know, as God first family, second government, third, like there was a hierarchy all started with government.
00:10:39:19 - 00:11:02:01
Wayne Mulder
It was more a national identity. So it was, you know, your love of country was third. So the love of God, love of family, love of country, do you not see that as that has been attacked? In fact, it's literally been flipped on its head because people with as I so often talk about that, what I'm talking about are differing worldviews.
00:11:02:01 - 00:11:26:29
Wayne Mulder
And if you take somebody with an opposite worldview of me, it's literally the opposite, except family is probably below God, because for many people with a different in the opposite worldview of what I have, God and government are interchangeable because they see it as one and the same. They see government in the role of God. We saw this all through 2020 and we see it now in the continued insanity that is still going on in some parts of this country.
00:11:28:07 - 00:11:48:21
Wayne Mulder
So first of all, this isn't a race issue. And second of all, as I mentioned a minute ago, I can't really speak to the female side of this equation because, well, I'm not one. And so there are only two options. I can't speak to it. But what I can speak to is the lack of male leadership in churches and in businesses and in the in our country as a whole.
00:11:48:21 - 00:12:10:06
Wayne Mulder
Right. So there was an article this is coming from America First Policy Institute. It's an article called Fatherlessness and Crime, where he broke down a fact sheet of what is the absent father and how does an absent father affect all aspects of a child's life. And they have all sorts of statistics on here. I'm not going to read every one of them.
00:12:10:13 - 00:12:32:21
Wayne Mulder
I'll put them up here on the screen so you can see them. But this is coming from Jack Brewer and this was in 2022 that these statistics are coming out. So approximately 18,395,000 children in the United States live without a biological father, stepfather or adoptive father present in the home. 23% of children in the United States are raised by a single parent.
00:12:33:11 - 00:13:00:25
Wayne Mulder
This is the most interesting part of that equation. That is three times the world average, which is 7% fatherless. Children are more likely to suffer from psychosocial development issues, live in poverty, drop out of school, engage in school violence, abuse substances, or enter the juvenile justice system. And if you're going to push back on that a little bit, I'd suggest that you just run a simple Google search and then follow the rabbit hole into all the different articles that are out there.
00:13:01:02 - 00:13:22:00
Wayne Mulder
For instance, the Minnesota Psychological Association has a peer reviewed article where the abstract says exactly this The number of single parent households in the United States has reached the highest levels in recent decades, and to an extent, literature suggests that telomerase and single parent households experience more physical and psychological problems compared to those raised in two parent households.
00:13:22:12 - 00:13:44:10
Wayne Mulder
The implications of homes and where fathers are absent may be important to explore for criminal justice and mental health professionals. In the article goes on in this peer reviewed study to describe the different ways that that absence of strong leadership in the home is then leading to some of these mental health. And if you like. Well, I don't know about that.
00:13:44:10 - 00:14:08:07
Wayne Mulder
You know, I don't know if I buy into that. Well, then in your search, read the article. Father Loss Families is the root cause of crime in Baltimore. Go on to father absent homes. Implications for criminal justice, The effects of a father absence and father. I'll turn it on. And on it goes. I honestly got so much research for this conversation that I was like, short of writing a paper on it, there was really no sense in going any further.
00:14:09:02 - 00:14:31:19
Wayne Mulder
As everything I say, Do your own research, look into it, look it up, see what you think. But at the end of the day, I think the stats are pretty clear. So single fathers are absent from approximately 80% of single parent homes. Approximately 41% of children are born to unwed mothers. And for women under 30, the out of wedlock rate increases to 53%.
00:14:31:19 - 00:14:47:16
Wayne Mulder
That's more than half if you're doing math or, you know, you went to a traditional school like I did, 63% of you. So here are the fatherless children and risk factors. So this is where it really came home for me, where I looked at these tragic statistics. So here again, I'm going to put them up on the screen for you.
00:14:47:25 - 00:15:21:28
Wayne Mulder
63% of youth suicide victims are from fatherless homes, 90% of homeless and runaway children from fatherless homes. 78% of juveniles in state operated institutions, 85% of youth in prisons, 80% of rapist fatherless children are six times more likely to live in poverty and commit criminal acts than children raised in dual parent households. And approximately 85% of children with behavioral disorders have been raised in fatherless homes, which is 20% 20 times the national average father lost.
00:15:21:28 - 00:15:53:10
Wayne Mulder
Children are three times more likely to be behind bars by the time they're 30 years old. Suffer from alcohol and substance abuse on and on and on. From 1980 to 2010, the arrest data of fatherless boys aged 10 to 14 increased by 50%. Most adolescents who enter the justice system have suffered from parental abandonment, substance abuse, or a dysfunctional household, which, of course, that's something different, you know, that we can define.
00:15:53:19 - 00:16:21:26
Wayne Mulder
In a study of 75 juvenile delinquents, 66% of them experienced fatherlessness, 20% never lived with their father, and 25% had an alcoholic father. Minimal parental involvement, which is something I want to talk about today. Unstable family dynamics and the development of attachment issues. All common consequences of a father was home contribute to an increased risk of juvenile delinquency.
00:16:22:09 - 00:16:44:09
Wayne Mulder
Fatherless children's are 20 times more likely to be incarcerated than children raised in a dual parent household. And then when it comes to fatherlessness and school violence, 71% of teachers and 90% of law enforcement officials. Again, the articles that I was just referring to here state the lack of parental supervision at home is a major factor that contributes to violence in schools.
00:16:45:11 - 00:17:08:05
Wayne Mulder
In a study of 56 school shootings, only 10% of the shooters, only ten of the shooters, 18%, were raised in a stable home. 82% grew up in either an unstable family environment or grew up without biological parents together. So this week I was had the privilege of being on a podcast. It's the From Embers to Excellence podcast with David Hollenbeck.
00:17:08:05 - 00:17:23:22
Wayne Mulder
Dave, as you'll recall, was on my show, and I believe that it's not only going to come out on his podcast, I think he also has a deal where it comes on a like an Internet radio station. When that show releases is be watching on the blue line dot com or on the social media and I will push that out so you can listen to it.
00:17:24:20 - 00:17:44:13
Wayne Mulder
What I really liked about this episode is it was a little bit different questioning than I've gotten on some of the other shows that I've been on. Typically, we always talk about law enforcement, mental health, we talk about resources that law enforcement needs to consider, and all of those things which really are the driving conversation that we have here on the blue line.
00:17:44:16 - 00:18:06:28
Wayne Mulder
But we also delve into some of these societal topics. And the reason we delve into them is because as society breaks down, as we have issues in the culture, those directly affect the law enforcement officers and the men and women out there on the front lines doing the great job that you all do each and every day. What I liked about this conversation, though, is Dave brought up a good point.
00:18:06:28 - 00:18:34:03
Wayne Mulder
He said, What is law enforcement, administrations or leaders role? So speaking specifically of leadership, what is their role when it comes to law enforcement, mental health? And I really enjoyed that question because that is so often overlooked that when we talk about the need for things like peer support or crisis intervention or on and on it goes all sorts of things to deal with law enforcement, mental health, where it really rises and falls is on leadership.
00:18:34:24 - 00:19:00:02
Wayne Mulder
So the answer to the question is everything. It means everything because without the proper leadership, without the proper people steering the ship and getting you to where you need to go and bringing these resources in and making sure that people understand they're there and advocating for them and so forth. Without that strong leadership, it all breaks down. And so then taking this to a different direction or taking it a little bit further, I have to ask you.
00:19:00:16 - 00:19:16:18
Wayne Mulder
Right. And speaking primarily to minute ladies, not neglecting you here, again, I'm a guy I kind of have talked to guys, but speaking to men, what are you doing? What are you doing to be a better leader in your family? What are you doing to be a better leader in your place of work, in your social circles? Circles?
00:19:16:18 - 00:19:36:18
Wayne Mulder
Do people know where you stand on things? You know, we live in this crazy time where the culture in a lot of ways is kind of disintegrating around us right? It kind of feels like things are out of control, like and even in our day to day job and on the streets were like, man, they said, you know, we see the impacts of things like fatherlessness.
00:19:36:26 - 00:20:01:14
Wayne Mulder
And I hear or I feel the kickback already, you know, this this opinion that it's like, well, how is that my problem? Like, how am I going to how am I going to solve this? This isn't my situation. I mean, you know, me, my kids live with me and my, you know, my significant other. And we're you know, our family's good and so forth.
00:20:01:14 - 00:20:26:11
Wayne Mulder
Here to me is the question. Right. And I can only come to these type of issues from a point of self-reflection. I can only come to it from looking at my own anecdotal experience, to own my own moments in my life where I had to ask myself, am I doing what I need to do here? I was actually on two interviews this week, and on the other one they asked the question, What do you most regret?
00:20:26:11 - 00:20:48:14
Wayne Mulder
What is the thing that you wish you would have done differently? And to that end, I answered it with I wish in the early days of my son being born that I wasn't concentrating so much on trying to build a business back then. And it speaks to a bigger issue because we as law enforcement, you know, you go to work every day and you're just tired.
00:20:48:14 - 00:21:05:20
Wayne Mulder
You know, you're dealing with people's problems and they're they have issues. And, you know, you're trying to solve this and you're trying to be Superman and then you're getting kicked back. And some people dislike you and you see it in the media and, you know, you feel like all these movements, they're all, you know, pressing against what I'm doing.
00:21:05:20 - 00:21:29:23
Wayne Mulder
And you just you get tired of it like you get home and you want to, like, watch Netflix or maybe you're the type that wants to just play video games. If you're younger than me, maybe you're of this video game generation, so you're like, You know what? I'm just going to check out, put this headset on and I'm going to go blow things up or whatever it is you do in your video game, or maybe you're the type that's going to veg out on Netflix, or maybe you like to work on things.
00:21:29:23 - 00:21:52:04
Wayne Mulder
So you go out and, you know, I'm going to work on, you know, all these vehicles in my yard or I'm going to go whatever it is, but it becomes escapism. I saw this in my own upbringing. You know, I saw what happens when people get so frustrated with things in life. And so frustrated and feeling that there's nothing they can do that in turn.
00:21:52:05 - 00:22:17:23
Wayne Mulder
They just kind of go into a shell. They check out and men, we do this so often, so often enough that if you're in the sound of my voice, you're probably thinking, Hmm, either maybe your father did that, maybe you've done that in one way or another. Now, I want to be clear. There is something called decompression and resetting, and that's very, very important.
00:22:18:11 - 00:22:50:00
Wayne Mulder
But you can't always be decompressing. In fact, at some point you have to ask yourself what you're decompressing from. If that's all you're doing is decompressing it be like being on vacation full time at some point. That's no longer vacation. That's just your everyday life, which, okay, that's good. If that's the situation you're in. But as we see things in society break down as these conversations are happening, and quite frankly, if you don't think society is breaking down, I would suggest you turn something on, say the news, any of them, and just watch.
00:22:50:08 - 00:23:14:16
Wayne Mulder
There are major, major issues in society. And if you're in this career, you know that. And what I don't like, what I am seeing, what I am trying to speak to here is you and I have a role in influencing those around us. We have a role in influencing our own family. Are we doing that or are we checking out?
00:23:15:01 - 00:23:32:23
Wayne Mulder
Are we just going to we're going through the motions and then coming home and that's it. You know, maybe you have a platform, maybe and you're like, well, you know, I don't want to do you know, any more than I'm doing or whatever, and that's fine. But you've been put in certain places, in certain environments like this podcast.
00:23:32:23 - 00:23:56:19
Wayne Mulder
For me, this isn't the amount of time and money and energy that goes into this. It's not at this point one of the smarter business decisions I've ever made. It's honestly more about the mission. It's more about being able to come here and bring these conversations and these important things to you so that hopefully it makes a difference in your life.
00:23:57:06 - 00:24:12:03
Wayne Mulder
Well, the same is true in your circle. Maybe it isn't a podcast. Maybe. Maybe it's as simple as having a conversation with your son or your daughter when you get home. Maybe it maybe it's as simple as going back to having dinner at the family table. And I guess it won't happen every day if you're in this career.
00:24:12:16 - 00:24:40:08
Wayne Mulder
Not with the 12 hour shifts, not with the varying days, not with the working holidays. Those things aren't going to happen. But what are you doing in the environment in which you've been given to inflow once those within your circle of influence and then while you're influencing them, are you speaking truth? Are you acknowledging truth? We live in a time where people honestly believe that subjective truth is all there is, and I'm here to tell you that's absolutely not true.
00:24:40:10 - 00:25:00:08
Wayne Mulder
There is objective truth there. Everything is not subject to your whim. What you feel like today really has nothing to do with it. Just because you feel like a peacock doesn't make you a peacock. It's true. With everything. If no matter what topic, what we're talking about, there is such a thing as objective truth. Do you know it?
00:25:00:18 - 00:25:30:25
Wayne Mulder
What do you stand on? What's your belief system? And then the last thing I want to talk about there is engagement. We have. I was just talking to someone. I wish I could remember the full context of it, but I was just talking to someone this week and in that conversation they were talking about projects going on. It was with their children's school and they said that they showed up and it was like a work type day and, you know, they needed to get all these different things done.
00:25:31:25 - 00:25:53:01
Wayne Mulder
The only people that were there and there were projects that required, you know, both sexes, both you know, there were like strength type projects and projects that required both sexes to be engaged in this. And yet only the women showed up. No men showed up. Only the women showed up. I hear that kind of story over and over again and you know what?
00:25:53:22 - 00:26:24:10
Wayne Mulder
I've been guilty of it as well. There were times that, like when my son was in Boy Scouts and so forth that I prioritized other things that maybe I shouldn't done and I should have been there. And I think that if we and again, speaking to the men, because I'm speaking as a man, if we don't start to engage in our families, in our communities, in our churches, I don't know how many times I hear from pastors and from others that, you know, the only people who are active in the church are the ladies, which, God bless them.
00:26:24:10 - 00:26:49:13
Wayne Mulder
I'm glad that they are. That's not my point. My point is, is what are you doing? That's my point. What are you doing? What am I doing right? Why? Why aren't you filling this void? Why aren't you willing to show up? Why? Why do you think that the only way to get through life is to hide that that's not leadership, that's not engagement.
00:26:49:13 - 00:27:18:01
Wayne Mulder
That isn't your calling. That isn't the way it's supposed to be by any stretch of the imagination. So my final thoughts for today. We've raised a generation of people who are more concerned about their personal satisfaction, pampering and fulfillment than the future success and stability of those within their circle of influence. You and I are also guilty. I don't know how many times I've chosen wrong chose personal enjoyment over involvement in the life of my son with others with whom I must engage.
00:27:18:14 - 00:27:40:26
Wayne Mulder
The reality is, is that we all have done it and we've all in one way or another, we have failed. We live in a culture where the breakdown the family is not only accepted, it's celebrated. The Overton Window has moved so far that it's become the expectation and the norm. If you would, however, statistics tell us over and over again where this road leads and we can only do one of two things.
00:27:41:02 - 00:28:02:00
Wayne Mulder
We can sit here, we can continue to watch Netflix play video games or a thousand other ways that today's parents and adults choose to check out and hide. Or we can choose to engage. Speaking specifically to men, I can feel. I can feel your angst. I can feel where you're at because I've been there and I ask you, Are you escaping or are you engaging?
00:28:02:11 - 00:28:30:06
Wayne Mulder
Do you know what time it is? Do you influence your kids? Do you have any involvement in their schooling? I can tell you that nobody will be a better parent to your children than you. Nobody will be a better leader in your family than you. Nobody. It will play the part that you alone were called to do in your community than you, because you are uniquely placed in the environment that you are in for such a time as this.
00:28:30:06 - 00:28:51:21
Wayne Mulder
And do you understand what time it is? This show is currently aimed at law enforcement. That means the vast majority of you have seen the tragic effects of fatherlessness and broken families. You've seen what happens when we try to legislate ourselves out of problems that can only be improved with a heart change. Are you engaging? I know. I know.
00:28:51:21 - 00:29:16:17
Wayne Mulder
Our career has a tendency to make us want to retreat. We are tired over. We're just over dealing with people. We're over dealing with problems. We don't want to make decisions. We simply want to escape. And to be clear, as I said, there is a time for decompression and to reset. But don't hear what I'm not saying. If you are only decompressing and if you are only resetting, then that's not resetting.
00:29:16:20 - 00:29:38:00
Wayne Mulder
That's escaping. I say it over and over and over again. I believe that law enforcement is in a unique position. You are in a unique position to save society. And if you're questioning if society needs saving, well, that's a conversation that's going to be much longer and for a different week. But for now, let's just pretend that you actually have some knowledge of what's going on.
00:29:38:13 - 00:29:59:21
Wayne Mulder
If maybe you just watch the news for one day this week. But back to my point. The skills that make great law enforcement officers make great people make great leaders, make great change agents, coupled with the skill sets that you gain from this career win when and only when grounded in truth, you are in a unique position to save Western society.
00:30:00:23 - 00:30:22:19
Wayne Mulder
If you question this, think for only a moment about the organization who made it their stated written in black and white. I can show it to you on the website. Mission to Destroy the Nuclear Family. They are the ones hell bent on destroying law enforcement. Also, they say ridiculous statements like defund the police and they support anarchy and destruction.
00:30:22:28 - 00:30:47:19
Wayne Mulder
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that if you are the enemy of the enemy, then you're probably on the right side. That does it for this week's Morning Roll Call. I'll see you Thursday in the interview room next. Next Monday in morning. Roll Call. But in the meantime, I'll see you out there on the blue line.